–Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower
If he's constantly doing suspicious activities such as lying about the girls he meets, talking to them secretively and doing anything that doesn't involve with being 100% faithful to you yet still expects you to take him back then maybe you should read this. And if not, then still read this. He's the one. You may tell yourself, but the truth is; if he was really the one than he would've never done any of those things. Your love is not supposed to repeatedly hurt you, he's not supposed to hurt you at all! That is not what you deserve. You deserve someone who makes you laugh so hard that your cheeks hurt, someone you can stay up all night with and not feel tired but end up waking up with them anyway, you deserve someone who's like a best friend you can make out with, you deserve someone who loves you just as much as you do and can show it.
Recently, a friend of mine had told me about some relationship drama she's been going through between her and her partner. Lisa and Jaime had been going out for quite sometime now, but even though they claimed that they loved each other, they constantly were breaking up and making up. It was a constant cycle that left shattered hearts and wounded esteems only to be swept up and cluttered together again. It was confusing with those two say the least, but it never bothered me whenever Lisa told me a few of her worries. Jaime was always lying about something, although he claimed to love Lisa, he always seemed to put her in a loop, confusing her with gentle words and aggressive intentions. I always wondered why she still stayed with him.
I still love him, he's the one. Lisa told me after they broke up. I didn't like Jaime, he just seemed to rub me the wrong way, maybe because he was a complete douchebag or because he had broken my best friend's heart too many times. Either way, it made me want to introduce him to my right hook. Anyway, as I talked to Lisa, I found myself wondering again why she still clinged onto him. Jaime had lied to her, tricked her, cheated on her, and broken her heart, yet here she is still professing her love towards him. Why? She could do far better than that weasel.
I know what you may say, the heart wants what the heart wants. Yea, but you know what, sometimes the heart get's confused between loving the person and loving the idea of the person. You should never make someone your priority when they only view you as an option, this is a fact. And words don't cut it either, actions speak much louder. Jaime was constantly saying Lisa was the one for him, all while thinking about other pretty girls and doing things behind her back.
But I've been with him three years, how can I move on?
Three years is only but a fraction of your life, a tiny fraction. I'll admit an impressionable one, but compare that to your life span. You have up to 90 years of living on this bountiful earth...and you're worrying about the three years you spent with that asshole? I don't mean to degrade anyone by any means, but what I'm saying is that time is nothing but perspective. And most likely in ten years you'll forget the loser's middle name. By that time you'd fall in love with the world all over again, meet some people, lose some people, become enlightened, and maybe even earn a degree. So believe me when I say this; hunny, you'll move on fuh suh.
There is absolutely nothing wrong being single. You DO NOT need a boyfriend or a girlfriend as a validation of your existence or self-worth. Being single does not mean it is the end of your life. Once one door is closed, another has been opened—don't just stand there staring at a closed door hoping it will soon be opened. If you do that then you're missing out on all the opportunities the other door has in store. That other door may just be the key to your happiness in life and maybe it may not be another boyfriend or girlfriend, it could be anything, a new friend, a new hobby, something new that will bring you far more pleasure than the Jaimes in the world could. But first you just have to let go and accept that he's just not the one.